How Not to Lose Your Head in Anger

How Not to Lose Your Head in Anger


How Not to Lose Your Head in Anger

 “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson


Many things can get in the way of our happiness if we allow them too. Having frequent anger outburst can get in the way of the good times in life. After an angry outburst or upsetting event, we may look back and have behaved in a way we are not proud of. We may have even made things worse  Learning how to constructively handle anger is very helpful.
This post will give you some great reflection questions to help you handle anger constructively. First off it might help to know your triggers. Learn how to recognize when you are angry or dealing with an angry person. That anger might be just the tip of the iceberg with that person. They have feelings and thoughts under the surface. Remaining calm and communicate your concerns openly can improve things.

Tips for working through anger

  • Count to 10
  • Take a deep breath
  • Write out what your feeling
  • Go for a walk
  • Practice behaving differently in a situation when you feel anger
All of the things on the list begin with action words, in order to start responding differently to anger, we must take action. Even if we know about the things listed the key is to put them to use. Practice responding differently to situations that cause anger.
Below the outburst and anger, there may be a range of emotions and thoughts happening. Many times the anger happens because of the way a person perceives the event or experience. Know the triggering feelings of yourself or others around you. Some of the trigger feelings people have are fear, hurt, rejection, disappointment, embarrassment, unmet expectation, and frustration.

Reflection questions to help when working thought anger are:

  • What is causing the upset feelings and anger?
  • How do I feel right now?
  • Why do I feel this way?
  • What can I do to feel better?
  • What do I need to feel better?
  • What can I do to improve things?

There is a website that provides a version of this anger worksheet.


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