Simple Rules to Reduce Anger
As much as we may not want to admit it anger is an emotion sometimes we all feel. It can cause us to hurt ourselves and other people. It can ruin relationships and create distance in families. Anger can cause us to lose jobs or other great opportunities. Many other unwanted difficulties can happen based on how we respond to situations. Read more to learn about the many things we can do to help ourselves overcome anger. This post will help you discover quick simple ways to bust anger.
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Rule 1: Don’t hurt yourself
When people experience anger they may lash out for many reasons. Some may want to hurt others and sometimes themselves. Slapping, punching, cutting, biting and many other methods are used during this time. All of this physical damage creates problems that are not necessary or helpful. Going beyond the physical damage we can cause to ourselves is one thing. There is a whole mental factor to deal with. When people experience anger they may be thinking over past negative situations, hurts, disappointments and failures. Sometimes things happening right at that moment can cause anger to arise. Even things related to future situations can make a person anxious and angry.
Rule 2: Don’t hurt others
This is an important rule to follow. Having intense emotions, fear, rage or anger can result in people acting irrationally. Think about the possible negative consequences of expressing anger in this way. If that is not enough, consider medical bills for you and the other person. Legal fees and a criminal record. I know that it’s a bit much but the truth is these consequence could happen.
Rule 3: Don’t destroy property
Punching someone’s lights out is not the only thing a person having an anger outburst should be concerned about. Destroying property such as holes in walls, broken doors, and many other items are a sign that there is an anger issue that must be resolved. Fees to repair the items or cost to repurchase the items can add up. All this not only hurts the angry person pockets but so much more is damaged by not addressing anger appropriately.
Rule 4: Don’t destroy relationships
Stop and think about how having frequent anger outburst can negatively impact your relationships. Anger can cause friction with any relationship you have. Relationships with friends and family may become distant. Romantic relationships may result in frequent arguments, leading to breakups or divorce. Outburst at work and in public can be embarrassing. This and many other negative consequences can happen.
Now after saying all the things you should not do,
Let’s get to the good stuff about what you should do.
Rule 5: Do talk about it
Talking about the issue is a great way to resolve anger or conflict. You may discover ways to address what has been troubling you. As corny as it sounds communication is key.
Talk after you have taken a moment to reflect or pause.
Talk about the issue at another time when your emotions are not raised.
After you have found a solution to the problem.
Think about it.
How can never talking about the issue truly help resolve the conflict?
Rule 6: Do check your emotions
Take a moment and figure out what emotions you are feeling. Take a moment and ask yourself:
What am I feeling?
Where is it coming from?
Why am I feeling this way?
How am I taking this issue?
What is the root cause of the emotion?
Next label that emotion, it could be a number of things such as disappointment, fear, and rejection just to name a few.
After you label the feeling start doing something positive to deal with it.
Rule 7: Do know your triggers
Knowing what triggers your anger is very helpful. Before you see red stop and figure out what causes these feelings for you. If we want to start facing anger issues it helps to know what is causing the issue and where the feelings are coming from. Learning how to respond differently to situations that cause us to feel angry is very important.
Rule 8: Do think about the future consequences
Consider the costs your anger has caused you in the past. Think about what could happen positively if you talk about it. Consider the positive change that could happen if you work through the anger. Flip that situation and think about what would happen if you did not change your response to anger.
Rule 9: Do go to your safe place
Take a timeout. Go to a quiet space and reflect. Take a few deep breathes and start thinking things through. Work through the steps previously mentioned. Practice the pause then respond. Sometimes a quick step away from the issue can help resolve some of the difficulty.
Now you know some simple rules to knock out anger, use them!
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