Happy couples have 5 positive interactions for every negative one. 
After reading that startling fact you may want to stop and look back over your last few interactions with you mate. Learning how to positively reinforce your marriage, relationship and or partnership is what it’s all about. Unlock snazzy ways to boost those connections with one another and get more of what you want out of your relationship. It is not just enough to be in a relationship but working at it is a must.
GIVE THEM PROPS
When your partner does something good say it. Acknowledge that good thing. Show them that you are proud of them and that you appreciate their efforts. Think about it, what a great feeling it is knowing that you are doing something that makes that special person tingle on the inside and smile on the outside. Encourage them. Focus on all that is good about them and remember why you choose that person in the first place.
DON’T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY
We all have heard this and I’m going to say it for the 100th time communication is key. If your partner shares something with you that you do not like or find a little off putting you can choose to respond differently. Don’t let the situation or statement ruin you, your relationship or your day.
Take a time out
Reflect over the incident
Identify your feelings
Look at how you can improve the situation
Meet back with that person and talk it out
HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR
Being able to laugh with one another is a great part to happiness within a relationship. You can share laughs, favorite movies, songs, inside jokes and so much more. In order to do this and create that happiness in the relationship you have to be open and have a sense of humor. Not only laughing with that special somebody but being able to laugh at yourself is important. Laughter can really turn things around and knowing that you can be your whole self around this person can be a great comfort.
100% Know yourself (be honest with yourself)
99.9% Knowing the other person (not a full 100% left for the element of surprise)
+ (lots of other important factors not mentioned)
Look, listen, touch, taste (yes I said it) and smell. Part of a healthy happy relationship is to know one another. Use all of your senses to get to know that person. Be able to know their likes and dislikes. Know the things that make them happy and the things that make them sad. Form that true partnership and friendship necessary for relationships to work. Sometimes we lose touch with one another for various reasons (work, school, children and more…). It important to not only pay attention but making sure that you keep each other’s attention. Make the commitment to make each other a priority in the relationship.
DON’T LOOSE IT WHEN THEY MESS UP
Let’s face it stuff is going to happen. If your partner makes a mistake in life it does not have to be the end all be all. Pick them up, come together and brainstorm ways to turn things around. Dare I say it again communicate, communicate, communicate. Come together and figure it out, find a way to get back on track. If they “mess up” then it can be a great time to “step up” and do something different to improve things. If you blow up at every situation or moment it can break down the communication and the happiness within the relationship. Hopefully together you can learn from the mistakes and together as a team you turn things around.
DO IT *Get romantical (To Wong Foo reference)
Touch them! Physical touch is such an important part of a healthy happy relationships and marriage. Yes all of the basic needs can be met but the need for emotional and physical intimacy is so very important. We must not forget about the importance of closeness. Reach out and grab that special somebody and show them how much you love them and make them happy. Sex should never be used as a bargaining tool or weapon (if you have been doing this stop). That can cause significant breakdowns in a relationship and marriage.
Thanks for stopping and readying this post. There are many more great relationship tips, tool and skills to come in the next few weeks. Let’s celebrate love everyday and not just on the 14th of February.
Challenge for the week: Find one way to show appreciation to your partner.
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